Wednesday September 12 2018

Strengthening Father-Son Relationship (Part 2)

“Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength. Take to heart these words that I give you today. Repeat them to your children. Talk about them when you’re at home or away, when you lie down or get up. Write them down, and tie them around your wrist, and wear them as headbands as a reminder. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.”

Deut 6:5-9

  1. Focus on the spiritual. 

Helping a son be grounded spiritually is an important role for a father. Helping your son establish firm foundations in his life and answering key life questions such as: 

      1. Who am I? (Identity)
      2. Where do I come from? (Origin) 
      3. Where am I going? (Destination) 
      4. Why do I exist? (Purpose) 

helps to establish a perspective that will help him look at things deeper than on the surface and will help him endure hardship and thrive personally. Fathers can have these conversations with their sons in a natural way as they share thoughts and feelings about life, manhood, and spiritual things.

“If we don’t teach our children to follow Christ, the world will teach them not to.”

  1. Focus on the positives. 

Our children are bombarded with negative messages all around them. Just watching commercials on television will create a sense of inadequacy in our sons. They probably are not quite as strong, they may not have six pack abs or be quite as good looking as the guys they see on television. As fathers, we need to catch them doing things right and communicate our approval. We should create positive ways to celebrate their accomplishments. Feeding them constant reinforcement will help build relationships of trust and overcome this constant barrage of negativism that they confront daily.

3.  Don’t be afraid of the big talk. 

Take the time to teach your sons about sex and relationships. Being open to having these conversations will help your sons develop better attitudes about sex and girls in general. With the ever-increasing presence of sex in the media, on the computer and in conversations with their friends, you will find your relationship not as strong as it could be if you avoid talking about these difficult subjects and let them develop their attitudes about sex and relationships from other sources who may not share your values.

4.  Make one-on-one time. 

We need to make time for individual relationships with each child. So make sure that you program some one on one time with your sons. 

Extracts from 10 Ways to Strengthen Your Father-Son Relationship By Wayne Parker